Leadership, Leading Self

Why Sharing Problems with Friends can be Selfish

Why Sharing Problems With Friends Can Be Selfish

I don’t have a problem (wo)manning up to confronting others. It feels awkward, but I will fight against awkwardness anytime, if it meant I can call out a person to his face because I am concerned with him.

Sometimes we stay within our comfort zones to just gripe our concerns with our peers. That’s just plain selfishness, of which I also find myself in once in a while.

When we have a problem with someone and we share that with our peers, unfortunately we don’t have the same urgency to tell our peers how things got sorted out when things eventually do. That leaves our peers carrying our past emotions and a stained reputation of the person we had a problem with. And we can never know how far in the neighborhood that can get to.

If we are really concerned with others, we need to train ourselves that our first response is to confront them right after whatever happened happens.

“If your brother sins against you,
go and tell him his fault,
between you and him alone.
If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.”
Matthew 18:15

If confronting in love does not work, read Matthew 18:16 and up.


About Pam Marasigan

Hello! I'm a wife and mom who has a full-time job and does homeschooling, and I also birthed a book a year after we lost our firstborn. I aspire to live each day according to God’s purpose for me. I believe that we were designed to live life to the full throughout life’s different seasons.